My good friend, Tanya, wrote the following post. Tanya and I were best friends in high school (back when we had no idea how good we looked :) ).
I share the struggle of battling with weight and I'm convinced many do
and I bet it's mostly women--we are super busy, trying to be super moms,
dealing with stress any way we can and we usually take care of
ourselves last of all. I know that most of those things are not bad, but
it helps me remember that we really do have a lot on our plates and we
just need to hang in there, do our best, and feel good about who we
are--not in the future, but right now.
From childhood I remember comparing my body to everyone else's. As a
teenager I always wanted to be the skinny cute girl. I wanted to wear
the size X jeans. And even when I was trim, I still did not think I was
thin or even average.
Now it's four kids later. But I think that once I hit thirty I got a
bit more realistic and kinder to myself. I decided that instead of
having a goal to weigh X pounds, or wear size X jeans, I would try to
focus on BEING HEALTHY. I want to exercise to be healthy. I want to eat
food that is good for my body. I want to be healthy for life--not just
until I reach a certain weight. Eating well and exercising regularly
makes me happier. I feel better about myself because I am taking care of
myself. Exercise is therapeutic. It is the perfect outlet for stress.
Just because I want to eat healthy does not mean that I won't eat
treats or occasional things that are not all that healthy. I love
cooking and really only want to eat foods that taste good.
SO, I try
to cook reasonably healthy meals and make sure that fruits and
vegetables are key players. But I do not deny myself treats-- like Dove
Promise Dark Chocolate with Raspberry Swirls--my favorite! I just have
to not go crazy with the treats. I am trying to be realistic here. If I
denied myself treats or my favorite foods until I got to X pounds, I
would not stay at that weight for long. It's no fun not eating good
food! So my solution is just to be practical. I know myself. I will
exercise. I will try to mostly eat healthy. And I will have a treat too.
I'm no nutritionist. I'm no doctor. I am a 31-year-old wife, mother,
friend, daughter, sister. So maybe my philosophy is wrong, but I don't
feel bad about it. I try to exercise 4 or 5 days a week. It makes me
feel good that I'm taking care of my body by getting some exercise. And I
like knowing that I primarily put healthy things into my body and into
my husband and kids. And I am very happy about not denying myself a good
treat now and then. And I will do my best to not compare my body to
anyone else's. I will focus on taking care of ME and MY BODY.
My message is not to aim low, but to find a realistic goal for your own life. I can live with the goal of being healthy.
Isn't she wise and awesome? Thanks, Tanya, for your thoughts!